“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.”—C.S. Lewis (via tror)
Don’t enter a long distance relationship if you don’t think you two will last, or if both participants do not see a future together. Those who are in long distance relationships are there to be in a very serious relationship. Long distance relationships are in no way shape or form, just ‘dating’. There’s a lot of responsibility, time, effort, dedication and work put into long distance relationships and you have to prepare yourself mentally and emotionally for these kinds of things.
And with that, you need to ask yourself and ask your partner if you two want to have a future together. Yes, things happen and some long distance relationships won’t work out, despite you two loving each other and wanting each other in the future. Sometimes the heart grows weak and distance wins. And it sucks. But back to the point, if you two just consider yourselves dating - don’t enter a long distance relationship because this is where I think the ‘cheating’ thing happens in few long distance relationships.
And that is another reason why a lot of people consider LDR’s not worth it because they think someone will cheat. It’s not in any way distances fault - it’s because those two people (or just one of them) weren’t looking to be tied down and be serious. And probably they never had this consideration in mind before.
But if you two are really truly in love and really want to have a future together, this will be one of the hugest motivations as to why so many stick with long distance relationships; because they prepare themselves to work through all the things that come with long distance relationships to be with each other in the end.
heh. over a year later and this is still salt in the wound.